Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Table Manners

When you were growing up, were your parents big on teaching you "table manners"?

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My parents were. I remember if us kidlets ever ate dinner with our elbows propped up on the table or were holding our silverware incorrectly, mum and dad would clear their throats, hinting that we were doing something wrong.

I am glad they did. I think that table manners are a dying pleasantry. People today think that table manners are reserved for the rich, stuffy or snobby - and I really don't like that society views it that way. The way I view it is as a way of respecting those you are eating with. I know that it's just something small, that there are bigger issues out there in the world to tackle - but it's just something I have noticed. Table Manners are becoming extinct.

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I was thinking about this the other day when I was out to lunch with friends. I noticed that out of everyone in the restaurant around us, only our group were eating with what I consider to be "table manners". It's funny the things you notice sometimes, isn't it?

(PS. The winner of the Kiki La Ru giveaway is Melissa. Congrats!)

30 comments:

Maki said...

I totally agree Dionne!!! I teach my girls tirelessly how to eat and have good manners because my parents did. I think many kids nowadays don't even know how to behave in public or in their own homes.

I'm grateful of my parents, esp my dad who taught me how to be a lady!!

xo

Sam said...

I'm with you!! I think they are important and add to the enjoyment of a meal :)

Melanie's Randomness said...

YES! I'm very aware of table manners especially when I'm out with a work function. Napkin on lap & don't put elbows on the table, don't keep knife in hand, & don't talk with your mouth full! =)

Table Manners & Etiquette is a dying art. I hope it gets revisted. Congrats to the winner!

Laura said...

I wasn't aware of the table manners I'd been taught growing up until I came to America. It was all just habit to always hold the knife and fork in my hands for the whole meal, for used cutlery to never touch the table, to not start eating until the host was seated and eating, to pass the salt and pepper together, never cut food with your fork etc... I imagine Australian table manners are similar to Scottish manners.

When we go to restaurants that don't give knives - usually Chinese - I don't know what to do with myself because I'm used to holding a knife throughout the whole meal and I hate trying to cut food with my fork... I could talk about this all day.

My Owl Barn said...

I am glad now that my parents noticed how I held my silverware and pointed out when I ate with my mouth full of food.

Ones table manners certainly show respect towards other people present on the dining table.

Renee said...

I'm so glad that I taught my kids about table manners. Last weekend my son went to a fancy restaurant before his Homecoming dance, and I knew that I didn't have to worry about him knowing his manners.

Courtney said...

I'm with you 1000% Dionne. My problem is that I'm way too sensitive to this issue, nothing drives me crazier than people talking with their mouth full of food or chewing on ice...it makes me want to scratch my eyeballs out! I wish it didn't bother me so much though! :)

Paula said...

cute post Dionne! It is amazing what passes today for 'table manners'...forget the elbows, just trying to get my teens to not come to the table texting on their phones is a chore for me! lol:)

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caroline @ patagonia gifts said...

I'm totally with you darling. I'm glad my mom taught me good manners, but it's being hard for me to teach my boys! they don't care a bit about eating manners!

Tali Schiffer said...

My parents tried, but not everything worked for them... there were still elbows on the table... In later years they all together gave in, as we were even allowed to eat in the livingroom watching TV...
BTW, I was on a date some years ago, back in LA. I had fish with some sauce and at the end I licked the knife as it had some yummy sauce on it. After the date I was told by the friend who arranged the date (it was a blind date...) that the guy wasn't interested in seeing me again cause I licked the knife (?!!) lol

Dionne said...

Wow, Tali! Now THAT is over the top. He didn't want to see you again because you licked a knife? Wow!

britni @ Antika Moda said...

I think table manners are a must! Unless you're talking about not putting elbows on the table, then I totally disagree, haha :)

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sEy said...

Table manners? Yup! My parents were strict on that one. We're not allowed to talk when our mouth is full. No elbows on the table too. I'm so happy they taught me those manners.

Vanessa said...

You are soooo right! I'm big on manners and wish everyone else were as well. You are right that people think they're for some reason reserved for snobs, but I think that it adds something special. Number one pet peeve? Hats at the table. Come on boys!

andrea said...

Table manners are so important for first impressions at times when you might be meeting someone whose opinion of you matters, like business lunches, meeting boyfriend's parents...

AMKreations said...

I don't know that my parents focused much on table manners...but we weren't allowed to full around.

I try to work with my children...chew with your mouth closed, use a napkin, stop wiping food on your clothes, use the utensils, not your hands! UGHH....it's a constant battle that I think I'm losing. =(

Looking Glass said...

How funny! I have just been thinking about table manners this week. I think it might be because I was watching "Ladette to Lady" and these girls didn't even know how to hold a knife & fork properly let alone keeping their elbows off the table!

~ Clare x

Phoenix said...

I grew up in a house where my father was ex-military, so table manners were VERY important. As a kid it made me rebel more, but as an adult I am certainly more well-behaved than some of my other friends. I guess discipline pays off in the long-term!

shealennon said...

I couldn't agree more! I feel like politeness in general is becoming less and less common. But I'm so happy my parents taught me well!

a whole lotta love said...

My parents taught us table manners and we even had a whole 'manners' subject in 3rd grade where we learned what and what not to do. Does this still happen anymore? You are so right about how its a lost art. With all these reality shows on today, it seems that we're teaching our society to be louder and brasher and have fewer manners. We were having dinner the other night with our neighbors and we were on the discussion of how few people send 'thank you' notes anymore too. I went to 3 weddings this summer.. and not a single thank you note and I think we give fairly substantial gifts (not that it should matter). With one wedding I even volunteered to do a 'photo booth' for her and threw a little bachelorette party. Its not like I do these things to get a thank you note, but I think its just indicative of our society. Too fast-paced and busy. Ok.. that was my overly wordy social commentary for the evening ;)

yours truly said...

Dionne- thanks for your compliment about my tatertot hairclips! Sorry you found it when the shop is temporarily closed... I'm moving back to America, from the Caribbean, and will re-open it in November when I'm more settled.

Your blog is really fun, I'm glad to have found it! Thanks again for taking the time to tell me you like them.

xo
Chelsea

Samantha said...

Such a good point! My parents definitely taught my brother and I table manners. It's better to take a cue from those you're dining around if its okay to be less formal rather than the other way around!

-Samantha
http://sincerelysamantha.com

Ps- Thanks for stopping by my blog..I'm so glad you did so I could check yours out : )

Signe said...

Table manners are important. My parents were never very strict on elbows propped up on the table but no playing with the food, no eating with your hands and by god no burping!

And what a lovely blog you've got here. Your pictures are lovely and the drawings fantastic!

And PS: I love sour candy too :)

Renée said...

Your blog is amazing, love it!

Tender Branson said...

Some things fell by the wayside (elbows on the table) but other things I still use today (eating with mouth full, no talking with mouth full) and I think that is to the benefit of all.

avant garde said...

my mother was the same way. elbows, napkins, everything. funny, my mom had a friend who had 2 girls, and we got together with them often. she, my mom's friend would say to her girls every now and then "you're ignorance is hanging out." and so they'd have to look around them to see what they were doing wrong. it was funny at the time. my son is now 17 and i'm always on the elbows thing at the table. yikes!

Notes from Holly St. said...

I couldn't agree more! My parents taught me strict manners when I was younger and it's really stuck with me in life. I think a little decorum is so important

Laura said...

Oh godness...this should be a post of mine!! I'm totally fixed on table manners...ando I absolutely agree with your way of considering them a sort of respecting other people and ourselves!!! I know I'll be boring...but your blog is wonderful and I'd be glad if you come and visit me!!
Laura@RicevereconStile

leslie said...

I had to giggle when I read this because I am always thinking about table manners. My parents were very strict about manners and I am really thankful as well. I agree too, it is hard to find table manners, I think they may be going extinct!